Edna Klarman Dolan 1927 -2012

by Lian on November 27, 2012

Edna Klarman Dolan , Santa Monica Beach 2011

It’s with a heavy heart that I announce the death of my mother, Edna Klarman Dolan. After a short, intense bout with cancer, my mother died late Monday night in a room filled with peace, light and love.

My mother was a wife of 62 years, a mother to 8 children, a grandmother to 11, a sister to 5, an aunt to dozens and a friend to many. She was a real New Englander, a Connecticut Yankee, born to a generation that worked hard, complained little and accomplished much. She was an avid gardener, a wonderful cook and entertainer and a stylish dresser. She loved Milky Ways, the Yankees and Doc Martin. She preferred white over any color, loved lilies-of -the valley and thought pewter was always in vogue. She was with it, bossy and opinionated. She was a beach go-er and  a party planner. But more than anything, my mother was a do-er.

Some people are thinkers or dreamers. Some thrive as ponderers or dwellers. But my mother got stuff done, all day long for 85 years. She didn’t change the world but she changed her world. She was the sum of a million little actions and a maybe a dozen big actions that constituted a life.

In that spirit, I ask you to honor my mother by doing something, maybe even one of the activities she loved: Go for a swim. Plant a rose bush. Say a Hail, Mary. Hang a wreath on your front door. Use linen napkins everyday. Dry some hydrangeas. Buy strawberries at the farmers’ market. Make your bed. Drop off a meal. Pull some weeds. Polish your silver. Pick up a little something at Saks. Wear good shoes. Do a load of laundry. Empty the dishwasher. Set the table. Make dinner. Volunteer at your local botanical garden. Docent. Put down a coaster first. Eat a Pinkberry. Light a candle at St. Patrick’s. Make some hot chocolate. Iron your shirts. Mail a real birthday card. Monogram your towels. Mash some potatoes. Walk your dog. Bring custard to a sick friend. Swap your homemade blueberry muffins for cutting privileges in your neighbor’s garden. Master the art of French cooking. Pack a picnic. Paint a room. Paint a baseboard. Decorate your mantle. Learn to make béchamel. Prepare a cheese platter. Go skiing. Pour some iced tea. Take an elderly friend to church. Plan for the next holiday. Send a gift. Arrange a centerpiece. Call your daughter. Call your sisters. And remember, you can never go wrong with a Honeybaked Ham.

Thank you, Mom.

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers,

Lian

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Lisa December 1, 2012 at 1:32 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute to a lovely person.

CLSD OPEN November 30, 2012 at 8:21 PM

Lian & Family – my heart goes out to all of you on the loss of your mother. Over the years, I have so enjoyed the stories that you and your sisters have told about your mom! She sounds like an amazing person, who touched all who crossed her path. Through the many stories you and your sisters have shared with us, I feel like we all know your mom and have greatly benefitted from her sage advice and wisdom over the years.

Lian, what a beautiful tribute you have written to your mom. In Edna’s honor, I will do at least one thing on the list, if not many. In the days, weeks and months to come, be kind to yourselves and find peace in little ways. Know that we are all sending love to you and your family.

xo,
Chris

Joanne November 30, 2012 at 1:46 PM

What an amazing tribute to your mother. So very, very sorry for you and your family. May your wonderful memories of your mom help you through your loss and pain. God bless the Dolan family.

Maureen Tunby November 29, 2012 at 9:28 PM

Dear Dolan Sisters,
I was sad to hear of your Mother’s passing. Lian what a beautiful tribute!
Thank you sisters to share your difficult year with us, we share your good times as well as the difficult times. May you all find moments of peace and wrap yourselves in the love of your family, and your Satellite Friends.

t3zoo November 29, 2012 at 7:47 PM

Thinking so much about you and your sisters this week, as tomorrow is the fourth anniversary of my dad’s death. I’m so sorry, again, Lian. During the short time that my father was ill and then for a long time afterward, I had terrible trouble sleeping. Listening to Satellite Sisters podcasts was one of the only things that helped me — your anecdotes and laughter distracted me from my own thoughts, and helped me to relax enough to drift off for a couple of hours. I wish I could return the favor now, but please know that I am thinking of you all, and wishing you a little peace, and a couple of hours sleep. xoxo.

Chris Wisniewski November 29, 2012 at 4:42 PM

So sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how old you are, when your parent dies you feel like an orphan.

Deirdre (Dede Kelly) Moore November 29, 2012 at 4:38 PM

Your words are beautiful and true. I remember your mom from the Southport years–what wonderful memories. I’ll add linen to the table tonight.

Amanda Grounds November 29, 2012 at 2:16 PM

So sorry for your loss? My thoughts and prayers are with you all
Stay strong xxx

Jami Goldstene November 29, 2012 at 1:18 PM

Dear Sisters,

All your Sisters are with you today. May the memory of your Mother be a blessing.

Carol November 29, 2012 at 11:47 AM

My sympathies are with the Dolan family. It is at times like this that you will appreciate your large and extended family.

Cran November 29, 2012 at 11:35 AM

Prayers going out from Maryland for you and your whole family, Lian. May you find some quiet times in the coming days.

Sheila Hill November 29, 2012 at 10:47 AM

I am so sorry for your loss, Lian. I’ll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts as you tackle the upcoming days, weeks, and months. I lost my mother 5 years ago, and I know that my 40 years of memories of her are always a great comfort for me. I know you’ll find the same is true for you.
~Sheila

Jillee November 29, 2012 at 10:29 AM

Lian,

I just wanted to add my heartfelt sympathies to the rest at the passing of your lovely mother. I can’t even imagine. I dread that day more than I can say. Bless you and your sisters (and the rest of your family).

hugs!

Jill

Cheryl November 28, 2012 at 11:03 PM

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I have loved hearing stories about her over the years. She was really special. I will be thinking of her next time I decorate a table, or visit TX Maxx, or talk to my own Mom. Will be thinking of you and your sisters & brothers

Debbie Songstad November 28, 2012 at 8:09 PM

It is with a heavy heart that I read of the passing of your mother. It sounds like age was an amazing, grounded woman who knew how to live life to the fullest and “not waste the good china” for only one day a year! Listening to your podcasts I know her legacy is being carried on in different ways through each of her girls! My thoughts and prayers are with each of you. U hope you fins great comfort from the stories of friends and family over the next few days and weeks.

Marci Rich November 28, 2012 at 4:54 PM

Lian, I was so sorry to hear of your loss. Your mother must have been an extraordinary woman—what a beautiful tribute your post is! I will think of her when I check off many of the items on your (her) wonderful “to-do” list. And I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts as well.

Charmean Neithart November 28, 2012 at 4:00 PM

Lian, I am so sorry to hear about your mom’s passing. I’ve enjoyed all your stories about her over the years. I know when I am touched by someone I’ve never met that they got their living right. Thank you for sharing the things she loved so elegantly. God bless you and your family.
Charmean

Aileen Finch November 28, 2012 at 2:42 PM

Well said Lian. Edna would’ve been pleased with that loving and thoughtful tribute.

angi November 28, 2012 at 1:58 PM

Your beautiful tribute brought me to tears. Your mom sounds like a wonderful woman who can be a role model for all of us. Your words inspire me to remind my mom of my love for her. I am sorry for your loss.

Bek_Mac November 28, 2012 at 1:33 PM

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mother. I must have been channeling Edna yesterday while in TJMaxx (my first shopping trip there in years) where I proceeded to purchase 459 cupcake liners, among many other holiday items!
Hugs & Prayers to the Satellite Sisters and your entire family.
God Bless you all during this difficult time.

Gabbie November 28, 2012 at 1:01 PM

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been listening to you and your sisters for years now and what a wonderful woman she must have been to raise such a close wonderful family. Tonight we will set the table and i’ll try my best to create a fresh holiday tablescape

Ma Schmidt November 28, 2012 at 11:35 AM

I feared this is what the recent silence foretold. My thoughts are with you – what a blessing to have had such a mother — I will be making Hot Chocolate this afternoon and thinking of you all.

Carol November 28, 2012 at 11:22 AM

Lian – I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s death. You write beautifully in tribute to her rich life – Very sweet. Blessings, Carol

Kate November 28, 2012 at 9:34 AM

Lian, what a beautiful and touching tribute to your mom. I almost feel as if I knew your mom from your descriptions and stories on Chaos Chronicles and the Satellite Sisters. I am sure I am one of the many listeners who will take your advice and DO something today or this week as an active tribute to your mom and the life she led. You and your family are in my prayers.

Kim Pieper November 28, 2012 at 9:15 AM

Beautiful tribute, Lian. I will save it for future use, as my mom is a do-er too.

Diane November 28, 2012 at 8:36 AM

I do not know your family personally. But listening to you and your sisters for years has made me feel so close to your family that I literally gasped and had tears when I read your post. I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom. I promise to be a “do-er” today in her memory. May she rest in peace….

Kristin November 28, 2012 at 8:09 AM

I was fearful that this may have happened… Such emotional times that you have allowed us all to be part of. Thank you for welcoming us all in; know that you are treasured and supported from across the globe. We all just gained another angel.

Karla Nelson November 28, 2012 at 8:03 AM

Even though I only know the Dolans from the Satellite Sisters and the Chaos Chronicles, I feel the loss of your mother….Although obviously not as deeply as all of you. Your mom was such a mix of gentility and practicality. I loved your stories of her and my heartfelt thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. Having just lost my mom on October 3, I know there will be laughter thru tears for you. How blessed you are that you had a mom who will be missed deeply.

Betsy McCollum November 28, 2012 at 7:19 AM

I am so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. What wonderful tribute you wrote about her and the fact she and her dad were close to you in her last year’s speaks so much to your dedication to your parents. In your mom’s honor-I plan on dropping off a meal to my friend’s family tomorrow. My friend is in California helping make her dad’s house uncluttered enough to bring her dad home from the hospital and her kids are in Ohio with her husband and immersed in their daily lives. Sending you love and prayers as you say goodbye to her.

Dee November 28, 2012 at 5:29 AM

My thoughts and positive wishes to you and your family at this time….beautifully written..be a doer, what a great legacy…peace

Jan B November 28, 2012 at 5:28 AM

My deepest sympathy to the Dolan family. Mrs. Dolan sounds like an amazing lady which is no surprise since she raised the Satelitte Sisters who have impacted so many women.

Christine November 28, 2012 at 5:26 AM

So very sorry to learn about your mother’s death. You and your family are in my prayers. This is a beautiful piece you wrote about her. She sounds like an amazing woman!

Roberta Nuckels November 28, 2012 at 5:17 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. Beautifully written Lian. T&P for all the Dolans.

Kelly Miller November 28, 2012 at 5:16 AM

A beautiful tribute, Lian. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family. May God bless you and give you great peace and comfort.

Marja November 27, 2012 at 11:30 PM

What a beautiful tribute you have painted of your mom! My heart is heavy for all of you, my Satellite Sisters. It’s a bit of comfort to know that her life was so full and full of purpose. I have so enjoyed getting to know both your mom and dad through your podcasts over the years. Thank you for sharing her eulogy with us all…it’s clear to see how proud you are of everything she stood for! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Marja
Long Beach, CA

Meg M November 27, 2012 at 11:00 PM

Lian, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounded like an amazing and wonderful woman. This was the loveliest tribute I have ever read. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Krista November 27, 2012 at 10:57 PM

Wow! I am so sorry for your loss … and yet I feel a sense of relief for you all that this was not a long suffering battle for your mom. Thank you so much for being willing to share the intimate moments in your family life. Though I never met your mom and most likely will never meet you, I feel as though I know a piece of all of you Dolans. My heart aches for you guys in this time of loss.

Beth November 27, 2012 at 9:53 PM

P.S. That’s a great tribute to her, Lian.

Beth November 27, 2012 at 9:52 PM

It’s with a heavy heart that I read of your loss. I am so very sorry. You had a great mom and nothing or nobody will ever replace her. God rest her soul and bless you real good, Lian. My love and sympathy go out to you, Monica, Sheila, Liz, Julie, your dad, and all of your families.
Beth

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